Appreciate the moment and don’t get caught up too much in the details
Sometimes in life we feel like we have a lot in our plate. We have family, we have our job and career, we have the general red line plan if settling down and many many other things. I know this feeling precisely, as I feel like it very often being a new mum these days. I feel like I have so many things in my to do list that I am constantly on a marathon doing one thing after the other. That can be very tiering, frustrating and make you feel like you are missing out on life. But how can we get out of this vicious cycle of being so occupied in the details and not see the big picture anymore how great and beautiful our life actually is ?
The more we feel we have on our plate, the more we get anxious and stressed. One key is therefore to remember, that we are only working against our own to do lists and expectations here. And we are also the ones that can therefore change those at any time ? What would happen if we would not achieve all our to dos at the end of the day ? The only thing that would happen is that we would not have met our expectations for the day. What we therefore have to understand is that we really only work against ourselves and our own inner expectation and perfectionism so it is key to adjust our own attitude here rather than trying to blow others.
Adjusting our mindset however, first means we have to reflect and understand ourselves better and especially what is important to us and what is not. What are tree ally the things important to us to do during a day and what is something that we can say we will postpone for later when we have time. The idea here is to understand which things are as internet to do immediately and which ones are just an add on.
Once we have this clear, it is very important to have realistic expectations on how much we get done during the day. And I can tell you with a newborn cut all your to do lists in half. We need to form a realistic idea of things we can achieve during a day. Otherwise, we will quickly get frustrated and stressed.
Once we have an idea what are our priorities and have set ourselves realistic expectations, a third option is of course to compromise on our standards in the first place, however, especially in a work context that might not be possible or ideal. For example, I am also struggling with this , as with many things I am not willing to compromise. However, some compromise can be very liberating and is even necessary to get a break. We cannot always be perfect that is important to remember.
Once we take all of this on board, the nice thing that we will see is that we feel we don’t only function running from one to do to the others but we actually have time doe some fun things in life as well. We are able again to see the big picture again that makes life so rich with impressions and variety. This will lead to more happiness for ourselves and people around us in the longer term.
It is therefore easy to get lost in the to dos and details. However, don’t forget to love a little - that is important to see the full picture of life as well as to collect energy again for when we have a lot on our plate.
