You will always find your feet - eventually
Today marks my 8th week of motherhood. I have to say it has been a pretty full-on journey. I still need to get used to less than 4h of sleep in one go as well as to constantly bear responsibility for another human being. However, I do have the feeling that after 2 months in I do have a bit of a routine coming and even the nights are getting easier. It is funny how quickly we adjust to new situations around us and just learn how to cope.
Now the question is in a wider coaching context what can we learn from this? In my opinion change is good and exciting and let me tell you a child certainly brings a lot of change into your life. However , we also see with chance if we don’t loose ourselves and the things that are important to us, and really put the hard work in to make it right, we do get used to things and see brighter days ahead. We always will end up in the other side eventually we will - we just have to hand in there and not give up too early as the reward will be tremendous.
However, hanging in there can sometimes be incredibly hard. Finding our way in a situation that feels like our life has been turned upside down can be very difficult. Even worse, if we do not know ourselves really well in these situations we can easily loose our own ideals and personal values that describe what is really important to us. We feel like we constantly have to compromise and need to be careful we are not compromising too much all together. It can call be very overwhelming.
The good news is, we will get through this eventually and find our feet. Everyone does. However, the question is will we use a few tools and make it sooner rather than later.
The first things to remember is to really know who we are and what we want in times of massive change. This should be our red line where we cannot and will not compromise . As an example, I really like tidiness and therefore even as a mother I try to have a tidy house and not live in a mess.
The other thing is , on those red lines if we realise we cannot fulfil all of them support is key. I my example - get the help if damit or a cleaner to support you . It is ok to ask for help and not cope with everything on your own.
If we have the right support and the red line guidance of things we cannot and will not compromise on, we are less likely to loose ourselves. This also means that with change happening we find our feet faster again and realise that we move closer to a new self we might like even better than the old one. For example, I realise a lot of things in motherhood I discover about me that I really like which I was not even aware I had those attitudes before. However, I am also being made more aware of my weaknesses every day which I am thankful for as it gives me the chance to work in them. With support and clear prick les therefore, you will find your feet faster trust me you will.
Remember, change is exciting and good even if full on . Hang in there and you will eventually find your feet in it . Nobody is born as a parent or a CEO but we are very good in adjusting sooner or later. Most importantly, know what you want and don’t loose yourself then you will find your feet again even faster and happier.
