It is ok to sometimes be overwhelmed - just don’t try to hide it
This week marks a bit of a milestone for me - I am reaching 6 months of motherhood. I sometimes cannot believe that it has already been 6 months and on other harder days those months seem like the longest ever. And I know we all have those days whether as new mothers or in our job, with our partners, where we just feel overwhelmed and the saying that all will be ok for us no longer holds. The big question is however, how do we deal with those moments? Do we just ignore them and carry on or does it help to talk about them with people we value and trust. You can guess the latter is much better than the former for ihr mental health and happiness.
It is very clear that life is not all about sunshine and every single one of us is facing tough times every now and then. Usually then, there are those people that like to talk about it and those that just want to deal with those times themselves. Now of course, we cannot and should not change our core personality here, however, I do encourage you to share those thoughts with people you trielt trust and not to feel shy to show your weaker sides to those. For me for example, when I go through a hard time with motherhood or in my life, my family or my partner are usually my go to people where I can show myself being vulnerable and share my thought in a open and non judgmental way . I also know that those people will usually be great listeners and if appropriate or needed will provide really great and well meant advice with them only having my best interest at heart.
The first step when facing hard times is therefore to show emotions - be honest to ourselves and others that besides the image we might want to keep up, our life is far away from perfect. And by the way, that’s is ok as sometimes thing go wrong are become just really tough. Sometimes we make mistakes or wrong decisions but together we can always work in it better than alone.
The worst we can do therefore is to hide our imperfections and just deal with it ourselves . In the long term , this might lead to more stress and anxiety and can damage relationships that we usually should value so much . Hiding our emotions is never good advice - we should show them to the world even if not what’s peasant or perfect. It will make us seem authentic in the eyes of others. Nobody wants perfect people - everybody can identify themselves with people with small imperfections . So let’s talk about use when we face hard times.
As already mentioned, - having a strong support network and choosing the people to share our emotions with wisely can make all the difference. We of course don’t have to share those intimate moments with the entire world, but those few people we really feel a deep connection to . Talking about it can help connect and realize that other people might have faced the same or similar issues. For example, this was a great help for me facing motherhood. Lots of other parents had experienced similar issues and had great tips in how to overcome them.
Rather than always takin about our great achievements, we also need to talk about tougher times we face. That’s ok we don’t need to be perfect and can show weaknesses and imperfections. Don’t ignore them therefore just talk about them to the right people and find away to move forward . Better times will come for sure :).
