Let go of your desire for perfection - nobody is perfect
November and December can be very stressful times for many of us . While we look forward to Christmas and the end of the year - the to do list w heave before the holidays are finally there seems to be just never ending. This, in combination with a forced constant desire for perfection can be a toxic combination that causes stress and anxiety for us, rather than enjoy the holiday season as we should. The only way out of the dilemma really is to lower our desire for perfectionism and come to the realisation that nobody is perfect all the time.
For myself, this is a very hard thing to realise. I love perfectionism. I love to be perfect in my job, my house to be perfect as well as my husband and everything else. Of course, this is nonsense as never ever is this achievable for everything in my life to be perfect. It simply is not something to even desire - as the effort to make everything perfect will be way too high and involves large sacrifices on my mental health and quality of life. So what can we do then to move away from and get over our inner perfectionism?
The answer is - work on our mindset. The first thing we have to understand is that it is not even desirable to always be perfect. People like seeing weaknesses in others and then showing their human side that bit everything is smooth and happy in their lives all the time. It is therefore good to show weaknesses every now and then to people we feel connected to and talk about our food days but also the bad ones.
Secondly, as already mentioned - is it really desirable to always be perfect ? No it is not - as the price we pay for this is very high . It involves constant stress and anxiety and leads to ultimately us getting sick or not being able to live in and enjoy the moment anymore. However, that is exactly what life is about and makes it so great.
This of course does however not mean to just let things slip all the time . We need to find our own balance here between reaching our goals and standards but not getting overwhelmed where we feel all stars have to always be aligned . The clear reality - they will never be - so stop trying so hard. Striking that inner equilibrium between achieving our desires that are most relevant and important - while at the same time living life a little bit on the edge really is the way forward.
Perfectionism therefore does not fulfil us - quite the opposite so let’s stop reaching for it so desperately. It will do is no good. Accepting our weaknesses is a process in itself we need to learn - let’s start in the holiday season won’t that .
