If you do your best - that’s always enough
We live in a society where public image and how we are perceived from people around us contribute more and more to our self-confidence. We have to perform, be efficient and always manage to achieve the highest standards in front of ourselves and others. This can be very tiering; it can make us feel anxious and under constant pressure. What we need to understand is, that we can only do as much as we can, and this will always be enough. If we do thing to the best of our individual abilities, nobody can blame us. Giving the best we can do – is always enough.
We are our own judge, and we are only liable to ourselves. In our dynamic and ever-changing society, there is a constant desire for planning, next steps and knowing what the next big thing for us to achieve is. However, sometimes things don’t work out or go wrong, which then very often leads to us questioning and blaming ourselves first. However, very often things not working out also depends on a lot of factors that are out of our immediate or direct control and influence. Things just happen around us every day, and when they go wrong, we should stop to always find the blame in ourselves first and immediately question our own abilities.
We can only give our best. And if we do this, meaning if we are willing to put all our heart and energy into something, it will always be enough so that later we should not blame ourselves for not having done enough or worked hard enough. Our best is really the maximum we can give. The best is a very personal definition that everyone has to answer for themselves. However, one thing is clear the maximum we can give of skill, energy, commitment, or time should always be valued and enough so that even if things don’t work out in the end, we can be proud of our learning and our achievements to get to this point even.
Giving our best is always enough and can be applied in many situations. At work, we might not have had success with a client, but we have given it our best shot, put all our hard work in, but it might turn out the client has other plans in the end that we might not be part of. These are factors that we often cannot influence. Often, we go into justification mode and start questioning if the client would have stayed had we only tried harder. However, we gave it our best and this will always be enough. While it is fair and good to question ourselves afterwards if we could have done thing differently and learn for the future, we should not blame ourselves for not having given it all we had. We decided and worked to the best of our abilities – nobody can attack us for that. Maybe other people could have done a better job, hence the “giving our best” is so special for each and every one of us, given our abilities and strengths.
We are as good as we think we are. We should build self confidence by giving our best and not blame ourselves for potentially being able to do better. We need to leave our anxieties behind and throw ourselves into life with the desire to give our best, but this being enough and not to look back when things go wrong and blaming ourselves for inevitable mistakes or circumstances, we cannot even influence. Giving our best is always enough – remember that and we will be happier and more fulfilled – even if things sometimes do not work out as planned. We cannot give more than our best - whatever that means for each and every one of us – we have to answer for ourselves.