It is good to have a plan – but have one day a month to be your “fun day”
It is very important to follow red lines in life, to have a general idea of where you want to go and what the general direction is. However, many of us very often get overwhelmed with this, which can lead to anxiety, stress and frustration, which is exactly the opposite to what plans and direction usually try to achieve. While it is good to have a red line, it is therefore important to find balance. One way to help can be to have a day in the month to be your fun day.
Now what exactly is a fun day? You could argue – should we not have fun every day? In an ideal world yes but for the most of us this is a highly unrealistic scenario. Usually, we are so caught up in our busy and stressful day to day with job, kids and all the other task at hand that the first thing we sacrifice on is to have fun. This is however very wrong, as it is important to also learn to let go and for a moment ti live in the moment, without thinking about tomorrow. Easier said than done for many of us.
We therefore have to consciously make an effort here and take time for fun again, actively and intentionally. What we do in that fun time or on that fun day is totally up to us but it should be something that we totally enjoy. Ideally, we would also do this with other people, such as our partners. Examples could include, taking the kids out, going to a spa or to the theater. The important thing is, that this day is for us to have fun, and just experience some ease from our worries and day to day stress.
The art here, is to make time for our fun day and to then really consciously try to switch off. Every one of us knows the feeling when we go on holiday, but we never really switch off as we constantly check emails and our phones for what is going on at home. We need to therefore learn again to switch off, live in the moment and not always think about the big picture. While the big picture in life is important and we cannot always live spontaneously to actively make choices in our lives, letting go is just as important.
Letting go means to really live in the moment, enjoy every minute and consciously not to think about the future on that specific day. What you will realize over time, that it will be easier to switch off more often and find your inner balance between planning and living in the moment. It is also important to say, that planning and having a sense of direction generally is good. However, relaxing is important as well, not to get overwhelmed with always chasing the bog picture.
Take time to relax really is the motto here. Find a day in the month to just do something you enjoy and where you totally are yourself and just have fun. Very often, people choose activities for this time that let them to totally enter a new environment and takes them out of their day-to-day routine. No phone or laptop allowed at this time ideally. When you spend the day with your partner, try to not talk about work or future plans, such as moving or starting a new career. This time really is for the two of you and not for future ambitions. Talks about what you really enjoy in your relationship and make sure that on that day you only surround yourself with people and things giving you positive energy.
The beauty of a fun day as well is, that it gives us so much power again to cope better with our daily life and stress. You will see that decision making becomes easier and you generally are more relaxed about the future. You will feel less stressed and anxious which will help you be clearer about your general plan in life and be more successful in reaching your goals. The fun day is super important so plan yours today and see what it can do for you, probably a lot.
